You may be struggling in some areas and find the phrase “I woke up today and find I don’t have what it takes to be average” can mean different things to different people. Maybe you think you are under-average or over-average. What can you do for self-improvement no matter where you are in life?
Here is something that may be of value. Write or email to a number of people that you have contact with. Don’t worry if they are someone you may or may not “get on with” or “like”. They can be used as a resource whether a negative or positive response is expected. Say something like this – (remember you are unique and can tailor to what you are comfortable with):
“I am working on improving myself. I’d understand that you may or may not know where I’m at – at the present time. What I would appreciate would be your input in any of the following areas:
- My attitude
- How you see my holding up under pressure
- Whether my current situation suits me
- An honest critique
You could just ask for an honest critique and leave it for the receiver of your correspondence to make of it what they will and get back to you. It can be a sobering experience – but definitely something you can learn from. A help with self-improvement. Yet also rather unsettling – dependent on your feedback. Consider it a learning curve. This can be just the sign you have been looking for – so don’t overlook any negative feedback.
While many talk about being positive – (it has its place) often it may not engender change. Grasp any type of feedback with both hands!
Make up a personal inventory. Your strengths and weaknesses. Where you need work and use your critique as an advancement in that.
Don’t be discouraged
You are “you” and not someone else – so don’t compare. Whether your outside appearance, your attributes, and your skills. Take stock of where you are at currently. You know more than you realize. You have experiences no one else has. God I believe gives you talents – it’s what you do with them that counts. I have not met anyone that starts off at Ground Zero. Even negative can be used to bless others.
No matter what choices you have made in life – remember you have learned from these experiences. Choices are knowledge to help you make future decisions.
TIPS on what you can improve
This list is no means exhaustive but you work it to include even more or change it. Write the list somewhere you can refer to. Having it dated is a bonus – since you can see how much you have done. A down-side to looking at what you don’t know or haven’t achieved. Forget it!
No one knows everything, nor can they have the “experience” you have. Being positively pro-active about this. Take baby steps each and every day. Life skills can be added to! Knowledge and understanding are Wisdom which are blessings to be prayed for.
This includes (but not limited to)
- Communication – This includes both verbal and written
- Relationships (Work on improvement and getting to really know yourself and other people)
- Motivation (See what keeps you going
- Planning and aims (Find out what suits you and have aims on how to get there)
- Values (What your core beliefs are and how they fit your life and it’s mission)
- Listening (This is seriously under-valued. I have not yet met the person who did not want to be listened to. This is a highly valuable skill. Consider pro-active listening)
- Learning from other generations not just your peers. That is those older and younger than you. They are both very valuable resources. Once you learn you can be valuable at sharing what you know with others.
This includes (but not limited to)
- Learning different apps – so you can help not only yourself but others as well
- Health – Implementing lifestyle choices such as exercise and eating and learning the value in each
- Learning to cook – (This is so under-estimated – but it is a highly valuable skill)
- Gardening – (A most productive and rewarding skill – and you get tomatoes!)
- Crafts – There are so many valuable crafts available to do that you could be hard put to just limit them to a few!
- Learn Public speaking ie Do some Facebook lives or You Tube. I’ve heard it said that your second go is never worse than your first go at it! Speaking groups such as Toastmasters are also a place of value here.
- Organizing (Everyone has to organize something Here is a reminder about attitude and some tips on organizing
To make a change, as self-improvement is, takes time. It can be challenging but you can make the change that makes the difference not only for yourself but others Keep focused and often keep blocks of time set aside for each area of growth you are working on. Review it often. Have a person who helps keep you accountable ie An accountability buddy. If you move faster than you have dreamed consider gaining a specific coach to help you or a mentor. Both have merit and help you “become a better you”.
Lastly, remember this. No matter how young, old, knowledgeable, shortcomings or what abilities you have – there is “RFI”. Room for Improvement. So go for it!
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