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How old are you? Well, no matter, whatever your age or where you are at you may think there seems to be no plan for you. Even though you may agree we are unique as human beings. Finding our purpose can be one of the most influential items on your life’s agenda.  Maybe I could chat to you and find myriad of ways where you would be of “value” and “worth my time”. Including that of “many others”. .


What am I here for?


Sometimes I have had a crisis happen. It made me  think twice. Sometimes my feelings changed at other times. This question casually came up in “my space”.


I asked this question when life seemed to change tack. If things seem difficult give your Doctor input about how things are going “in your space” and/or talk to a friend that knows you rather well and can make sense of anything too confronting..


Does worry help?


When I was 19 my girlfriend of the same age was completely grey. She, however, didn’t seem to have any worries – except for “hair dye”. Sometimes in my  life I have wondered where or “what stage am I at – where am I headed – should I be worried?” Every so often this may cross our mind but it sometimes was simpler than I thought.


Sometimes though I have been reminded of the words in Baz Luhrmann’s rendition of  “Your Free (to Wear Sunscreen” which puts it well.


Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as

effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum

The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that

never crossed your worried mind

the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday

Book with Like What you Read written on open pages


Maybe you have some life experience under your belt but they aren’t just what you need and you feel a lack in certain areas. Talk to a professional health care worker if worry does get more than is what you normally handle.


What is Purpose?


Purpose is often considered a target to be reached or goal to be aimed for.. (That’s the goal reaching person who is “me” often likes to think of it that way)  I tie in principle which I have learned in the past is “the basic reason why”.


Not having the life experience you need


Not having life experience (no matter our age) reminds me of the “boiled egg” story from my Auntie.


Her mother (my Grandmother) told her when the eggs came to boil to cook  them for 5 minutes.My Auntie said there were around a dozen eggs. Well my Auntie dutifully went about putting them on – watching them earnestly and had the timer nearby. After 20 minutes my Grandmother called  “Why are you taking so long with those eggs?”


Oh dear – my Auntie – then so young in experience had thought she was to count up the dozen eggs then multiply them by 5 and then that would mean 60 minutes of boiling. At least that’s how I remember that she recounted it to me (with her giving a laugh).Life experience counts for a great deal and surely changes our perspective when we are more educated.

Eggs on red white table cloth

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So with the “boiled egg theory” in mind remember you might very well need some more life experience in an area you are facing. This doesn’t mean you don’t find purpose it just means you may very well see that a “higher” and “deeper” purpose is off in the future as you gain experience with life.


Our need for purpose – even shallow – can stand in for awhile but it is after “treading time” in only one area that we realise that the human spirit does better and with the added advantage of knowledge that gives us a much more learned experience in life’s lessons.


Having and Finding Influential Purpose


Our purpose in life may be to “rob banks” because of our “past” education. But the principles of our land are against such behaviour. Then again on a seemingly harmless level we can gossip about someone who has done wrong to us (by our judgement). But past that we can aim for so much higher.  Principled living can teach you some basic rights and wrongs and what direction to head in.


There are a myriad of great purposes in life that you can attend to – but aiming for something of a higher calibre each and every day will make you a happier and more thankful person. This will show you that having a deeper and basic foundational purpose wins the day. Having your solid principles that help your fellow man tied in is something of great value.

                                                                                        Have purpose. Be Influential.


How to put purpose into practice


You may think you are limited by time, education or age. Putting purpose into practise doesn’t always cost money. Education can be slow in coming in some quarters but do a review of some of your actions. Life experiences remember are education after all.


Discuss with others who you respect and who are people you find keep integrity as their “fellow mate”. Also illness may precur you from doing a great deal of hands on – but do remember you have a voice – whether online or with your phone. There is always something you can do to be of help to others.


Ask someone you appreciate to do a “ready reckoning” of you and how they find you and where you could gain strengths. This may be a challenge – but can be helpful to motivate you with working towards putting purpose into practice.

Purpose can bring passion


When you find your purpose in life with principled living it can light a passion “under you”. You can become passionate about what you do. But remember if you have purpose and principle in the right place you will reach a peaceful place.and your passion will be balanced and your purpose will be grounded.




Life is a learning curve and we don’t know what it will bring us. In life – some young people have illnesses quite young. Sometimes we can make decisions that make us a bed in which we would prefer not to lay in in our older age.  But that is life for better or worse – with which our circumstances can shape us.


My reminder to you is to do all the good you can to yourself and others and leave a legacy of honour, helpfulness and gratefulness for what you can or have achieved. Have a revamp to where you are at now – start a new beginning today!

Deborah Hunter Kells

I have a wide range of interests and the top of my list is people and relationships. I appreciate our big wide world and nature which tries so hard to deal with what we do to it. As noted you will find a variety of topics covered (see Home page) My appreciation goes to my team and others whom I collaborate with to make this blog successful and resourceful. Thanks especially to my team: Sarah, Tina, and Billah (See footer for more of their details)

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