There are some pretty pernicious rumours and ideas that get floated around from time to time, that suggest that as we get older, we lose the ability to take control of our lives, achieve our goals, and undergo processes of self transformation and rejuvenation.
You can sense this sentiment in statements like “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.”
Whether you want to radically change up your fashion sense and try a new outfit, rejuvenate your home with a purchase from a place such as Carpet One, take up a new hobby, or make new social connections, however, you’re never too old to turn things around. Let that outfit lead to a new style perhaps. Google some new Home Decor ideas. Get creative and think outside the square with a hobby you wouldn’t normally think of trying. Branch out into groups through learning and find friends that way. I try many of these things currently and in my life you can reach the age where you have a good hard look at things going on and want to make that change.
Here are a few reasons why.
Because you are embedded in social webs of various types, and anything you do to improve your own life will influence and impact others
It might be that you feel like it’s pointless taking on a new, more productive and uplifting direction in your life, due to the fact that you’re at retirement age, and you’re not likely to create an entirely new career from scratch, or to transform the world overnight.
This pessimistic view, however, neglects a few important details about human life. First and foremost, it fails to acknowledge that we are all embedded in social webs of various types, including even just the fact that we exist in the same neighbourhoods locales as other people.
You might not think that dressing a bit more sharply, and doing your gardening, will not have any significant impact on anything. And yet, not only would doing these things make you feel better and more empowered in your own life, it would also influence the people around you, in subtle ways. (Don’t forget that hairstyle either – mine has been charged up a great deal lately!)
Maybe your next door neighbour will notice your newly curated garden, and take care of their own in response. Then several others follow suit. And before you know it, the whole neighbourhood ends up looking better, because you took the initiative.
It’s a terrible idea to underestimate just how powerful your actions can be. I think I would refer to it as the ripple affect.
Because as long as you’re alive, anything that makes your circumstances even marginally better, is not wasted
As long as you’re alive, you still have wants and desires, hopes and dreams, and can experience pleasure and pain.
If your circumstances in life aren’t absolutely perfect – and no one can honestly say that their circumstances are perfect – anything you can do to make things even marginally better, will increase the net quality of your life, make you happier, and increase the options available to you.
It should go without saying that anything that makes your circumstances even marginally better, from your own perspective, is not wasted – at any age.
Because momentum can have a powerful impact – and even small actions can lead to major domino effects
You may feel that making small changes in your life would be pointless, due to their minuscule scale. And you might also feel that trying to make major changes is pointless, because doing so is just impractical.
It’s important to remember, though, that momentum can have a truly powerful impact – and that even small actions can lead to major domino effects.
You don’t need to set out to absolutely transform the world, from the outset. But by simply setting yourself an ambitious and uplifting goal, and taking steps towards it, you can begin a virtuous cycle that can end up having a positive impact greater than you could have imagined.
Deborah Hunter Kells
I have a wide range of interests and the top of my list is people and relationships. I appreciate our big wide world and nature which tries so hard to deal with what we do to it. As noted you will find a variety of topics covered (see Home page) My appreciation goes to my team and others whom I collaborate with to make this blog successful and resourceful. Thanks especially to my team: Sarah, Tina, and Billah (See footer for more of their details)