It’s Okay to Ask for Help When You’re Feeling Low
Listen, it’s okay to ask for help when you’re feeling low. I wish I had when circumstances were not so good around me.
Yes, especially when you are experiencing signs of depression, and you are struggling to cope on a day-to-day level, then asking for help could be the best thing you ever do. I know that when things were tough for me I didn’t reach out as I could have. Education and knowledge in hindsight is a great thing after all. But I also put into practise wording – it’s not just coping with these kind of problems but “dealing” with them made me feel more positive about it. Word play I know.
But here’s the thing about asking for help. Many of us don’t, especially when we are struggling with problems relating to our mental and emotional health. It might be that we don’t want other people to perceive a weakness in us, or we might not want to burden other people with our low moods. And so we carry on, and while our moods might be lifted eventually, we might also sink deeper into depression and emotional distress. At an extreme level, this might also cause us to have thoughts of self-harm and even suicide. But you don’t want that and this need not be. There are always solutions to problems, always.
So, focus on your wellbeing. Reaching out to others is actually a sign of courage and not weakness, and you might then receive the help that you need to put you back onto a happier path. It’s called great gain when you are heading that way.
Thankfully, you never have to be alone. There will be people and organizations available to you to turn to when you need it, be that when you are just starting to find yourself slipping into a low mood, or when you have fallen headlong into one, and you are struggling to find your way out of the blackness.
So, you might start with the people closest to you. Be it your partner, a trusted neighbour, a friend, or your pastor at church, talk to them about how you are feeling and draw on their support. Sometimes, a listening ear is all we need, and after speaking about how we feel, we might soon start to feel uplifted.
You might also draw on these people for help in other ways. So, if you are feeling low because you are experiencing loneliness, you might ask them to give you company when you need it, or you might ask them to join you in some sort of social activity. And if you know you need extra mental health support from a professional, you might also ask the people around you to make those appointments for you if you don’t have the energy or courage to do so yourself, and you might ask them to join you when you attend appointments for moral support.
And talking about professional support, there will be a number of avenues open to you, so go online and look for the relevant people near to where you live. So, you might want to consider counselling services akin to those offered by Bluesky Psychology, as through talking therapies, you might get to the bottom of why you are feeling as low as you do. There might also be specific charity groups near you, including befriending services if you are feeling lonely, or community help groups for anybody suffering from certain types of mental health issues, so do a Google search and book yourself into them. You may be surprised when you talk to others – that they may know some areas of support that others use or that they recommend. Consider all your options.
Check with your doctor too, as not only will talking to them help, but they might also suggest medication which could help you overcome your low moods. They will point you in the right direction to other services too, such as those we mentioned above. And if you are showing real signs of mental distress, then your doctor might also refer you to a mental health crisis team, or another body who will give you the help and support that you need.
Don’t be alone then. If you need help, find somebody to talk to. Pick up the phone to talk to a friend or a professional working within crisis support. If you have specific needs, ask those nearest to you for help, or contact the relevant agency for support. You see, it’s okay to feel not okay. There are times when many of us do feel low and need the support of others, so don’t assume you are showing weakness by asking for help, and don’t assume other people won’t care. Often it will bring out the best in them to be called upon to help.
Today then, remember that it’s okay to ask for help when you are feeling low. Taking that first step will lead you onto a happier and healthier path.
Take care, and thanks for reading.
Deborah Hunter Kells
I have a wide range of interests and the top of my list is people and relationships. I appreciate our big wide world and nature which tries so hard to deal with what we do to it. As noted you will find a variety of topics covered (see Home page) My appreciation goes to my team and others whom I collaborate with to make this blog successful and resourceful. Thanks especially to my team: Sarah, Tina, and Billah (See footer for more of their details)